Alright guys, it’s time for us to try a little harder and put more effort into making our wives happier. Let’s face it, we know in the back of our minds, there’s more we can do for our significant others.
Not everyone’s relationship is the same and it’s not that every woman wants the same thing but we’re going to discuss 5 essential things you can start doing today to make sure she feels loved and appreciated.
Yup, you’ve heard this before. Learn to listen
Now this is not as simple as it sounds. It doesn’t mean you get to turn on the basketball game and act like you’re listening to your wife about how her day went or check your emails as she strikes up a conversation.
Most of us “listen to respond” and a lot of times we don’t even realize that we’re doing this.
Your wife is explaining some of her concerns at work and before she’s done telling you her side of the story, you already have a solution and a response.
When we listen to respond, it’s as if we are rushing the conversation to try to end it as quick as possible or respond based on our own perspective.
Instead we need to “listen to understand” and not feel that a solution or response is always needed. Your spouse wants to know that her problems are acknowledged and that she has your undivided attention.
This type of communication with your wife will only lead to a stronger relationship and a stress-free environment.
Make sure you’re doing your part at home
I want you guys to think hard about this one. Do you do more work around the house than your spouse or is that just what you think?
These tasks can range from cooking dinner to taking the kids to school to handling the financials. There are an endless number of things that need to get done at all times.
If your spouse thinks they are doing a lot more then this can be a cause of a lot of tension and stress in your relationship. This doesn’t mean that everything has to be split evenly 50/50 but rather communicate each other’s responsibilities and be sure that you are both on the same page.
It’s really important to discuss what she might prefer to do and that she isn’t overwhelmed. Prioritize the responsibilities and identify what is important to her. What she thinks is a daunting task may seem like a breeze to you and vice versa.
It’s always nice to reevaluate often so that there isn’t any miscommunication between you and your wife.
Support her goals and aspirations
Just like us, your wife has goals and dreams. These goals can be small or grand but the important thing is that you support her through it. This is important because it gives her a sense of confidence and reassurance to keep pursuing her goal.
It’s inevitable for anyone to be unhappy when they feel like their life is constantly put on hold or if they feel like they are being restricted. Just as you would want your wife to support your endeavors professional or personal, do the same for her. This will go a long way in your relationship and marriage.
If you’re not quite sure how to show support, check out this article from All Pro Dad. It talks about what kind of support your wife is looking for and some ways for you to express that to her.
Don’t make big decisions without her
Marriage and relationships take a lot of work and communication. There is no way your wife will feel included or important if you don’t consult her when making important decisions.
Maybe you’re looking for a new job or even thinking about buying a motorcycle for you to ride on the weekends. These decisions probably require a little more thought than deciding where you want to go for lunch.
Remember that you and your wife are a team. Share ideas, weigh out the pros and cons together and come to a decision collectively.
It’s not always about gifts but sometimes it can be
Guys, don’t forget to bring home some roses once in awhile or treat her with a gift that you know she has been wanting for some time. The gift in itself is less significant than the gesture. It doesn’t have to be extravagant gift but rather something personal for her, touch her with a sentimental gift.
It’s always a nice way to show that she is appreciated and loved by you. It may seem like a simple gesture but when you get to be so comfortable around your wife, its very easy to forget the little things and how much it can make a difference.
Recently, my buddy got his wife a gift from MiiCreative and she absolutely loved it. You can send in any photo of you and your wife, your kids, or even your pet and they’ll send you a canvas with paint and brushes for you and your wife to spend time painting. Gift ideas like these will really show your wife how much you care and show that you are willing to put in the effort.
Keep it simple
There’s an endless number of things you can do to make your wife happier but you can use these 5 tips right away.
Remember, your wife wants to feel appreciated, important, and loved just like you. When things get hectic and both of your daily lives are busy, its really easy to forget and acknowledge the little things. That’s where you can score some brownie points with your wife and have a strong, healthy relationship.
See you all next time!